If you have arrived here, there is a good chance you are feeling confused, frustrated or perhaps even exhausted. You may have spent months, or even years, reading about ADHD and recognising familiar patterns in your partner. The forgetfulness, unfinished tasks, emotional reactions, disorganisation, procrastination or communication difficulties all seem to fit.

ADHD symptoms can affect both partners within a relationship and can influence many different forms of intimacy and connection. People often think only about sex when they hear the word intimacy, but intimacy can also include touch, cuddles, kissing, hand holding, eye contact, laughter, emotional closeness and simply wanting to spend time together.